Friday 12 November 2010

Let it sink in

So, you've punished him, expended all that energy and ensured he has a sore bottom. What then? If you are like me, you don't want to let all that good work to go to waste.  I want it to sink in.  I always find making sure he doesn't rub his bottom immediately after makes sure he can't get rid of the sting but a period of reflection or what some call corner time makes a big difference.  Normally, I instruct him to stand with his nose against the wall and with his hands on his head for a period. This could be in the same room or outside the door.  I expect his bottom to be on show, typically with his pants at his ankles, if he has any. I place no time limit and a couple of times for longish periods. I will check in sometimes to make sure he doing it and if he has not followed my instructions, he gets punished.  If he has had some hard discipline and pushed his limits, I like to leave him alone for a while so he can let his real reactions come out. My experience has been that it gives me time to relax and him time to reflect on the emotions  he has felt.  When we then come together, we are more relaxed and can enjoy what happens after ;o)